Saturday, January 31, 2015

Animals in My Backyard

I have always liked observing the birds and animals in my neighbourhood. Dogs, monkeys and cows were the only animals I got to see, but I was able to observe several varieties of birds. I find watching birds very fascinating. It is also calming and humbling because, we think we have it tough in this world, but for these birds and animals, every day is a struggle. They have to fight for basic survival at all times - look for food, protect themselves from predators, find a safe place to live in these concrete jungles.

I remember waking up to the sound of birds chirping and trying to identify different birds from their calls. The birds I could see most frequently were sparrows, pigeons and crows. We have the tradition of offering the first morsel of rice cooked for the day to crows and other birds. The birds had got used to it and were quite punctual. They used to wait at the balcony precisely in time for Mom to serve them. When Mom was running late, she actually used to appologise to the crows: Sorry 'kake' (crow, in Tamil), give me ten more minutes! 

In school, during our mass drills, I used to pass my time observing the two pariah kites that had taken residence at the terrace of my school building. The kite looks majestic in flight, with its powerful wings flapping against the wind, so high in the sky. Oh to be able to fly like that! With the wind blasting on my face and the world beneath looking tiny and far away, like a toy city. Once, during another of my mass drills, I was looking skywards as usual for a trace of the kites when I spotted a flock of pigeons flying close together. The next minute, the pigeons scattered, trying to fly away as soon as they could. Puzzled, I looked around for the reason of the commotion. That was when I spotted one of the kites chasing the group of pigeons. I noticed a stark difference in the way the two birds flew. The kite, with one mighty flap of its wings gained enough momentum to glide in the direction it wanted to go. It was able to glide for quite a distance before it had to flap its wings again. The pigeon on the other hand had to flap its wings continuously in order to stay airborne. It also flew at lower altitudes than the kite. The kite had zeroed in on a pigeon who couldn't fly away in time. It made a beeline for it. I couldn't see how things proceeded from there, but later that day, I found a half- eaten carcass of a pigeon on our playground. I didn't look too closely at it. It was quite gruesome. When I got home from school, I recounted the incident to Dad, who is a nature lover too and has a great deal of knowledge about wildlife. He told me that it was highly improbable that the pigeon was killed by the kite. A cat had most probably done the deed since kites are scavengers. They feed on dead animals and plants.

Once, a family of barn owls moved into the parapet over our drawing room window. This was an exciting prospect for me as I'm a die hard Harry Potter fan. In the books, owls play the significant role of delivering post. I used to observe them every night. They were a very pretty sight: golden brown and white in colour, with large beady black eyes. Looking at them brought to mind two contrasting idioms: one in Hindi (‘ullu ke patthe!’, which roughly translates to, ‘as foolish as an owl’) and the other in English (as wise as an owl). It’s interesting to note how the two idioms which feature the same bird have exactly opposite meanings!

Monkeys used to make frequent appearances where I used to stay. These were the black faced, grey haired 'langurs' which are rarer than the regular pink faced monkeys. There was a mango tree in front of my house. Groups of langurs used to come there frequently to feast on the mangoes. Our house was on the first floor, almost level with the height of the tree, so there was always the possibility of langurs leaping from the tree to our balcony which lead to the kitchen. This has happened quite a few times. I remember two incidences.

One time, I was sitting at my desk doing homework when I heard a noise in the kitchen. As I was getting up to go check out the source of the noise, I noticed a brave little langur who had decided to explore our house. I stopped dead in my tracks. So did the langur. We noticed each other at the same time. As soon as it saw me, it scurried back to the kitchen. I followed it with increasing apprehension and was not surprised to see a group of seven - eight langurs having a gala time in the kitchen! One langur was seated very royally on top of the fridge. Some were running about the kitchen counter. Others had discovered a basket of bananas and potatoes lying in the open and were helping themselves to it. There was a tiny langur too, who was clinging tightly to its mother. The mother had an air of fierce protectiveness for her child, which was endearing to see. None of them seemed to notice me standing quietly at the doorway observing them. I did not want to alert them to my presence. So I turned and walked away as quickly as possible to call Mom. She had quite a shock on seeing so many langurs invading her kitchen. But she pulled herself together and shooed them away. Some of the larger langurs bared their teeth at her, but retreated quickly.

Langurs make a characteristic sound which goes something like, 'hoop, hoop...hoop, hoop'. One evening, Dad heard this sound and when he went to check the balcony, sure enough, there were three langurs lounging on the balcony seat. Normally langurs leap away when they see humans, but these three were braver. They weren't budging. Dad suddenly had a bizarre idea to throw one of my shoes in the direction of the langurs. He didn't intend to hit them with it, it was just to get them to move. The idea worked, but in the process, my shoe landed inside the compound of the opposite building! Luckily, the watchman of the building had been watching the proceedings with much amusement. He threw back the shoe and it fell neatly inside our balcony.

I have had some experience with cows too. Back in the day, a lot of cows could be seen on sidewalks of roads. They were mostly brown or white in colour with big menacing horns. As a kid I used to be terrified of them. If I had to go for a walk, I avoided wearing red for fear of antagonising the cows. Later on, I found out that cows are colour blind and couldn't care less what colour clothes I wore. I wonder why they show cows and bulls getting incited by the colour red. I gradually got over my fear of cows, mostly because I was confident that if a dire situation arose, I would be able to outrun the cow! I need not have worried. Cows are harmless creatures, as long as one doesn't bother them. In many cultures, feeding cows is considered to be a good deed, 'punya'.

Animals featured prominently in the stories my Dad used to tell me when I was a kid. That's probably why I notice them so much. Besides being a stress buster, observing birds and animals can teach us a lot: patience, persistence, hard work, to name a few. I recommend it to everyone.

Friday, January 23, 2015

An Ode to Harry Potter




I read the first Harry Potter book when I was eleven. I got so hooked to it that within the next few years I had finished the first four books of the series and was desperate for the next book. The fourth book had ended on such a note that I just had to get my hands on the next one to know what happened next. I was so crazy about it that I used to gather all my friends and we used to enact various scenes from Harry Potter. The scenes from the first book when Harry, Ron and Hermione go to save the Philosopher’s stone were our favourite. Raincoats functioned as our robes. ‘Dandiyas’ used to be our magic wands. I had even painstakingly compiled a list of all the magic spells and what they did, from all the Harry Potter books for easy reference. Oh, those were the days!

 I started reading the newspaper because of Harry Potter, if only to scan the global news section for the release date of the next book, and also for some spoilers! By this time, the Harry Potter movies had started coming out. The release of the first movie was just as exciting as reading the books. They say that a book should never be judged by its movie and this goes for Harry Potter too. However, I have to give it to the movie makers as they did a spectacular job in staying true to the book. It was a delight to see that the casting matched my imagination to quite an extent.

I used to re - read the books every summer during the holidays. Strangely enough, I found something new to like about them with every reading. Initially, what attracted me to the books was the novelty of the concept – that there was a magical world hidden in plain sight of our normal ‘Muggle’ world. A world where there was a school which taught Magic, where there were creatures like unicorns and centaurs and where owls delivered post! I have always been a fan of fantasy and adventure. Harry Potter has it all – murder, mystery, adventure, magic, romance! As I grew older, I realised that there was so much more to the books than all that. Here are the main reasons why I encourage anyone who would listen, to read Harry Potter:
1)   The books are extremely well written, especially the way the plot unravels at just the right pace and how everything that seems so mysterious at first fits together so neatly in the end. J K Rowling is a genius.
2)   The message given by the books is very powerful - that good ultimately triumphs over evil, love wins out over hatred and fear. Our life is a series of choices we make between what is easy and what is right. These choices define the kind of people we are. Friendship, family, loyalty are more important than wielding power and are even worth dying for.
3)   The best thing about Harry Potter is that its characters are very believable. The protagonist, Harry, is someone to whom we can all relate. He is portrayed as a boy who has fame thrust upon him from a very young age. Fame, of which he wants no part. He would rather just be a normal boy. As normal as a boy wizard can be. At least then, his parents would still be alive. My heart went out to the young Harry who had to live with his Aunt and Uncle until he found his true home at Hogwarts, School of Witchcraft and Wizardry. I’m sure that anyone who has read the books will agree that many characters in the books remind us of real people in our life. Like Harry, we have all felt like a misfit at some point in life. We have had that one evil teacher who used to punish us just to spite us (Umbridge), the good teachers who pushed us to achieve our full potential (Professor McGonagall and Albus Dumbledore), that bully in school who took sadistic pleasure in our miseries (Malfoy) and friends who were more like family, who stuck by us through thick and thin and made us feel like we belonged (The Weasley’s, Sirius and Hermione).
4)   On the outside, Harry Potter may seem to be a fantasy series. However, if we look closely, many real world comparisons can be drawn from it. Here is one interesting comparison: In the books, Voldemort and his followers advocate that the Wizarding race should have only ‘purebloods’, people whose parents are also wizards. They look down on mudbloods and half - bloods, who have Muggle blood in their veins. There is mass killing of such people in the name of purifying the Wizarding race. This is uncannily similar to the genocide of Jews in Nazi Germany under the reign of Hitler, in favour of the blond and blue eyed Aryans.

I feel like I have literally grown up with Harry Potter. Harry was eleven in the first book, just like me when I started reading it. The books have taught me so much. I wouldn’t be exaggerating if I say that they have shaped the person I am today. I connected with them on so many different levels that when the series ended, I was lost. I even cried because, now there would be no more Harry Potter! It was time to bid the final adieu. After a while I found other books to read, but none of them will ever take the same place in my heart as Harry Potter. I don’t think I’ll ever grow out of my ‘Potter mania’!


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Wednesday, January 21, 2015

For the Love of Reading!


I have been reading since I was a kid. My parents, both of whom are avid readers themselves, instilled the habit in me. Initially, my father used to read to me from colourful story books. Then, when I became old enough to read, I was given simple novels like those of Enid Blyton. Her Treasure Island of the Famous Five series was one of the first books I read. From then on there was no looking back. I went on to read all the books in the series and discovered other similar series, like the Five Find Outers, the Secret Seven, the Children of Cherry Tree Farm and the Faraway Tree series. I was drawn to these books, because all of them featured a bunch of kids, roughly my age, engaging in adventures. To the child in me, reading such stories was delightful. The part that I loved best was the way the words in the book would paint a vivid picture in my head - from the appearances of characters, their homes, their schools, their pets to the mischief they got into.

From very early on, I became a very deep reader. “Deep” as in, the events in the book, the fate of the characters and the characters themselves, affect me. In a good way, of course. I relate to the characters and develop an affection for them. When I read, I look at the world through the characters’ eyes, experience it from their point of view. I laugh when they laugh, cry when they cry, even get angry on their behalf. I feel like I have gained a better understanding of people by reading about various characters and how they cope with difficult situations. 

The best books are those which teach us important life lessons. Harry potter has taught me that we always have a choice between what is easy and what is right and that love and friendship, are more important than wielding power. The Hunger Games books have taught me that even a single person can make a huge difference, like inspire a rebellion against an oppressive government if one is brave enough to believe in oneself. The Princess Diaries has taught me that to attain self-actualisation, one needs to look within. Self-actualisation comes, not by gaining other people's appreciation, but by gaining one's own, by empowering oneself. These are just a few examples. There is so much more that I have learnt - little snippets of wisdom from between the pages of a book.

Second best to reading is talking to other people who have read the same books that I have. I absolutely love talking about my favourite books to people who love them just as much as I do. To me, they are kindred spirits who understand my pain and joy, who know how I feel when I read a book that I love. 

I don’t get hooked to every book I read, but there are some that really strike a chord deep within me. When I finish reading such a book, the feeling is bitter sweet. On the one hand, I feel happy to know that the story ended well, even though the ending may not always happy. On the other hand, I feel melancholic. There is a void within me, because the story ends there. It's almost like saying goodbye to a close friend who is going away for a long time, because now, I won't be able to read about my favourite characters anymore. I call it 'withdrawal symptoms'! To get over these symptoms, I look up fan-fictions and fan-arts of the characters. This only partially helps. Another thing I do is this - if there is a movie based on the book, I watch it. It is exciting to see if the movie portrays the characters, events and locales in the book just as I had imagined them. Some movies are good, like the first few Harry Potter movies and the Lord of the Rings movies. However, many movies end up being disappointing. I can forgive the moviemakers for that because, when making movies, there are many constraints that need to be adhered to, especially the time constraint. Thus, one would do well not to judge a book by its movie, as the popular saying goes.

People say that reading is a means of escapism. Maybe it is, if done in excess, by disregarding all worldly duties. To me, reading is a way to cope. Whenever I feel down in the dumps, it is reassuring to know that there is a good book to read in which I can escape for a little while. When I emerge, I feel rejuvenated and ready to take on the world again.

It doesn't matter if it is an eBook or a real book. A book is a book, in whatever form. Although, it is true that it is more fun to read a real book. The excitement of turning pages, the smell of a new book - lend a personal touch to books which is absent in an eBook. However eBooks have their own advantages. They're portable, easily available, and cheaper. I read both kinds of books, whichever I can get my hands on first.

It may be said that this world is divided into those who like to read and those who don't. But I believe that there is "a book" for everyone - this one book that will make a person, even a non-reader, fall in love with reading. 


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Time to Stand and Stare


The other day, while walking over one of the foot-over-bridges at the Thane Railway Station, two little girls who were walking hand in hand with their mothers, caught my eye. I noticed them because, unlike most people who were either looking straight ahead, in a hurry to reach their preferred platform or glancing at the indicator to get information about the next train, these girls were staring out from the gaps in the railing of the bridge to look at the trains passing below. They giggled and squealed in pure delight every time a train passed by. Their laughter was infectious and I found myself smiling too.

This incident got me thinking. We notice so much more of the world around us when we are kids. Everything seems fascinating, mysterious and beautiful. As we grow older, we understand the harsh realities of life. We are bogged down by worries, stressed out due to the pressure of always wanting to be one step ahead of the rest. We are too busy to observe the curious little details of the world around us. Like the way the clouds look so dark and menacing just before a torrential downpour, the serenity of mornings just after sunrise, when the sky is all pink and soothing, the way the leaves of a tree dance in a light breeze, the quiet, concentric ripples on the surface of a lake....There is so much to observe and appreciate in this world, if only we would care to look.

In this fast paced world, slowing down and taking a break is considered a waste of time and synonymous to inefficiency. However, taking short breaks from our monotonous routines to just observe the world around us can actually be beneficial. It can bring down our stress levels like nothing else can, it can improve our concentration, it can instantly put us in a good, positive mood and hence increase our productivity. There have even been scientific reports that looking at greenery, for a while everyday can boost our health. Thus, taking some time off to rewind can do us a lot of good.

In conclusion, here is William Henry Davies’ famous poem, “Leisure”:
What is this life if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.
No time to stand beneath the boughs
And stare as long as sheep or cows.
No time to see, when woods we pass,
Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass.
No time to see, in broad daylight,
Streams full of stars, like skies at night.
No time to turn at Beauty's glance,
And watch her feet, how they can dance.
No time to wait till her mouth can
Enrich that smile her eyes began.
A poor life this if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.

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On Self Love




Self love is the best love, they say. We are quick to bestow our love and affection on others, but we find it difficult to extend the same courtesy to ourselves. We often compare ourselves with others and depend on other people’s opinion of us for a sense of self worth. We are more critical of our own flaws than those of others. We love ourselves conditionally- I would love myself more, if only I were prettier..... if only I could score better marks..... if only I was popular.....

These are not acts of self love. On the contrary, such acts undermine our confidence and provide a one way ticket to perennial misery. The key to lasting happiness is to love oneself unconditionally. Loving oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. We need to be loving, affectionate and appreciative of our own selves. Only then can we be loving and affectionate to others. Lack of confidence is a direct consequence of inadequate self love. If we don’t believe in ourselves, if we don’t have utter faith in ourselves no matter what, then we will be easily swayed by what others say. Self love instills confidence which in turn brings success and popularity.

Self love should, however, not be confused with narcissism. Narcissism means thinking only of oneself and fulfilling only our own needs. Narcissism is self obsession. It undermines our character while self love uplifts it. There is nothing selfish about self love.

On an ending note, here is something to think about: “You, more than anyone else in this world, deserve your love and affection.”

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